Listen closely to what I am saying. That’s one consolation you can give me. Bear with me, and let me speak. After I have spoken, you may resume mocking me.
Job 21:2-3
Ah, yes!!! The thought does overwhelm me.!
I will see him for myself. Yes, I will see him with my own eyes. I am overwhelmed at the thought!
Job 19:27
“We ought to be very careful what we say to those who are suffering affliction and trial, for a word, though it seems to be a very little thing, will often cut far more deeply and wound far more terribly than a razor would.” – Charles Spurgeon
People can learn about Jesus, and faith without you ever saying a word.
Don’t deepen the wound with the razor of judgement, condemnation, or “I told you so.”
- Pray before you go, while you are there, and when you leave.
Ask for discernment and the ability to keep your mouth shut. - Sit silently, unless the person wants to talk, but wait for their lead. Speak in general terms about general things, not specifically about the situation.
You aren’t there to carry on a conversation, but to show that you care.
- Refrain from trying to resolve their situation.
Interjecting your two cents worth, by inadvertently circumvent what God is trying to do in the person’s life. - Allow them to vent without judgement or response.
Job wasn’t wrong in venting. Friends should be a safe place, a sounding board for whatever needs to be released. - Ask if you can pray with them, don’t assume.
Believe it or not, even a Christian might not want to pray in that moment. - Withhold your opinions and/or sharing a Biblical perspective.
Your purpose should be to listen, support, and show you care, not to point out the person’s sin or fault, or to join in bashing others that might be involved. - Demonstrate kindness by asking, “Is it alright if I sit beside you?” “Is it alright if I pray with you aloud?” “Is it alright if I pray silently?” “Is it alright if I give you a hug?”
Read the situation and act according. Some situations can put individuals on sensory overload. A hug, sitting close, or even a touch could send them overboard.
Console correctly, Wendy.
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